God Where Is My Boaz? Finding Love And Purpose

Have you ever wondered why it seems like everyone around you is finding love, getting married, and living happily ever after while your prince charming is nowhere to be found? You’re tired of kissing frogs that turn into pigs and you long for your own epic love story.

If you’re short on time, here’s a quick answer: Boaz represents the divinely ordained partner God has prepared for you. But in order to recognize Boaz, you must first become the best version of yourself, trusting that God’s timing is perfect.

In this comprehensive guide, we will dive into the deeper meaning behind the question ‘God, where is my Boaz?’ and provide spiritual wisdom and practical relationship advice to help you prepare for love.

Understanding the Story of Ruth and Boaz

The significance of the name Boaz

The name Boaz has Hebrew origins and means “strength is within him”. This is a fitting name for the kinsman-redeemer of Ruth, as he showed strength of character in taking Ruth as his wife despite her status as a foreigner.

He also showed strength in generously allowing Ruth to glean from his fields and providing for her needs. Boaz stands out as a pillar of integrity and compassion.

Boaz as Ruth’s kinsman redeemer

As a close relative of Ruth’s late husband, Boaz fulfilled the role of “kinsman-redeemer” according to Hebrew custom. This meant that he looked after the interests of his widowed relative Ruth. He ensured she was protected and provided for.

Eventually, he even took her as his wife to carry on her late husband’s family line. Boaz went above and beyond in caring for Ruth.

Some key responsibilities Boaz fulfilled as Ruth’s kinsman redeemer included:

• Allowing Ruth to glean grain from his fields to provide food for herself and Naomi
• Making sure his workers left extra grain for Ruth to gather
• Providing Ruth protection from harm while in his fields
• Taking Ruth as his wife to carry on her late husband’s family line
• Caring for Naomi in her older age after marrying Ruth

Boaz embraced the kinsman-redeemer role wholeheartedly. He is an example of sacrifice and compassion toward others.

Lessons from Ruth’s story

Ruth’s story teaches many valuable life lessons, including:

• Faithfulness – Ruth stayed faithfully by Naomi’s side after both their husbands died. She refused to abandon her.
• Diligence – Ruth tirelessly worked hard gleaning fields to provide for herself and Naomi.
• Integrity – Ruth kept herself pure before marriage, winning Boaz’s admiration.
• Patience – Ruth waited patiently for God’s timing in finding a husband in Boaz.

Through her noble and virtuous character, Ruth found favor, affection, protection and love from Boaz. Her devotion ultimately saved her widowed mother-in-law Naomi from destitution. Most importantly, as the great-grandmother of King David, she is a direct ancestor of Jesus Christ.

Truly, the value in a virtuous woman of strong moral fiber is “far more precious than jewels” (Proverbs 31:10). Ruth exemplifies charming beauty rooted in godly wisdom.

Becoming Ruth: Preparing Yourself for Love

Focus on personal growth and purpose

Before seeking a romantic partner, it’s important to focus on your own personal growth and finding your purpose. Consider investing time in activities that bring you joy, taking classes to learn new skills, volunteering to help others, and getting clear on your core values.

As you become the best version of yourself, you’ll gain confidence and have more to offer a future partner.

Pray for clarity and confirmation

Bring your desire for love before God in prayer. Ask for clarity on the right partner for you and that He would confirm when you have met the one He has for you. Pray for Him to prepare your heart and the heart of your future spouse. Trust in His timing and guidance in your search for love.

Detox from past relationships

Take time to heal from emotional wounds of your past romantic partners. Seek professional counseling if you struggle to move forward. Avoid speaking negatively about exes as you discuss your dating history with new partners.

Forgive those who have hurt you and wish them well from a heart of compassion. This “detox” will open you up to receive new love.

Establish standards based on core values

Decide what values matter most to you in a life partner, like faith, integrity, and kindness. Make a list of the positive qualities you hope to find in a mate. Avoid compromised standards or checklists that disqualify great matches.

Core shared values have more importance for long-term compatibility than specific traits you desire.

Recognizing Your Boaz: Qualities to Look For

Spiritual maturity and integrity

A spiritually mature Boaz will have a strong relationship with God and live out his faith with integrity. Look for a man who prays, reads the Bible, and is actively involved in his church or faith community (reference). His words and actions should align.

You want a man who walks the talk instead of merely talking the talk when it comes to his spirituality.

Noble character and reputation

Boaz was respected in his community as a worthy man of noble character (Ruth 2:1). Look for the same solid reputation and admirable qualities in a potential partner. His friends and family should speak highly of his kindness, gentleness, honesty and work ethic.

Beware of signs of anger issues, selfishness or other negative traits.

Financial responsibility

While expensive gifts are nice, you want long-term financial stability. Does he manage his finances well? Out of control spending and piles of debt are red flags. Look for signs he lives within his means like a practical car, modest home or nice but not over-the-top clothing and accessories.

Ask how he handles finances and if he invests or has a savings plan (reference).

Shared values and life vision

Before falling head over heels, pause and evaluate alignment across these key areas reported by the Gottman Institute (reference). Do you share the same faith, vision for life, money values and communication style? Differing goals or values can strain even the strongest relationship.

Avoiding Counterfeit Men: Red Flags to Watch For

Superficial charm and smooth talking

Some men can put on an act and seem almost too good to be true when you first meet them. They know all the right things to say and do to make a good first impression. However, if it seems like they are trying too hard to impress you with grand gestures and nonstop compliments, it could be a red flag.

Pay attention to whether their charm wears off over time and if there is substance beneath the surface.

Controlling or abusive behavior

One of the biggest red flags to watch out for is any signs of controlling, possessive, or abusive behavior. This includes things like checking your phone, telling you what to wear, isolating you from friends and family, or making threats.

These behaviors tend to escalate over time, so it’s important to recognize them early. Make sure any man you date respects your independence and doesn’t exhibit signs of feeling like they “own” you.

Financial irresponsibility

While money doesn’t need to be the top priority, financial responsibility is an attractive quality in a partner. Some signs of financial trouble to watch out for include a pattern of unemployment, frequently asking to borrow money, problems like evictions or repossessions, unpaid child support, or significant debt they are avoiding.

These issues can put a strain on a relationship. It’s wise to discuss financial styles and responsibilities early on to prevent problems down the road.

Extreme jealousy and possessiveness

It’s normal to feel some jealousy occasionally. But extreme jealousy, possessiveness, accusations of cheating, and controlling behaviors like demanding passwords to your devices or accounts are glaring red flags. These behaviors destroy trust and can even become abusive.

Healthy relationships are built on mutual trust and respect, not obsession and suspicion. If a man seems unable to control his jealousy even early on, end the relationship.

Keep your eyes open while dating and don’t ignore these red flags if present. No matter how attracted you may be, signs of a counterfeit man mean you should watch for your safety and end things if needed.

Trust actions over words, get advice from friends and family, and don’t sacrifice your standards. Paying attention now can help you avoid entering an unhealthy situation. The right man will respect you and support you in being the best version of yourself.

Moving Forward in Faith: Next Steps

Release expectations and control

When seeking a Godly partner, it’s important to release control and expectations. God’s timing and plan is perfect, though it may not align with our own. As Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

Release your checklist of must-haves and trust God fully. He knows your desires and will bring the right person in His timing.

Position yourself purposefully

While waiting on God’s timing, focus on becoming the person He’s calling you to be. Discover your divine purpose and passion. As you grow in godly character and deeper purpose, you’ll be ready when the time comes.

“Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4). Positioning yourself in God’s presence and His purposes for you is the best preparation.

Refuse to settle for less

Don’t compromise what you know you deserve and God intends for you. The world may pressure you to lower your standards, but God’s best always requires patient faith. “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:14). Refuse worldly timelines and compromise.

God’s perfect provision will be worth the wait!

Pray and walk in step with God

Throughout your journey, seek God first (Matthew 6:33). Pray for your future spouse, preparing your heart. Ask God to guide your steps and align your heart with His. “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).

Walk in intimacy with Him, trusting His leadership. Staying in step with God is key to finding your Boaz in His timing and will.

Conclusion

Finding your Boaz requires spiritual discernment, wisdom, patience and faith. By focusing on your own growth and alignment with God’s purpose for your life, you ready your heart for that divinely ordained connection.

As you move forward in faith, establishing personal standards and looking for the qualities that really matter in a partner, trust God to direct your path to true love.